You think you love that baby now? Oh man just you wait. Words can’t even describe-so I’m not going to try. There is no love like the love you have for your child. Once that baby is born, you will finally understand the true meaning of “unconditional love”. It’s a different kind of love than what you have for anyone else-even your husband…
Last year, during Christmas, we announced to our families that we were expecting a baby. I had just taken a pregnancy test a few days before and was shocked with the results. It was a little earlier than planned and I was nervous/scared that we weren’t ready for this and all the changes that come along with a baby. I realize now that it was silly to feel that way. My pregnancy went by so quickly (even though at the end I thought it was never going to end) and looking back there are some things that I wish someone would’ve told me.
Dear Pregnant Self-
I know this isn’t in the intial life plans right now, but remember that God’s plans are always greater than our own. As you go about the next 9 months try to always keep these things in the back of your head:
It is totally normal to feel scared, freaked out etc…This is all brand new to you and it’s the fear of the unknown. You can read as many baby books as you want (or don’t read them at all), nothing will prepare you for motherhood the way having a newborn will…and guess what? You’ll know exactly what to do.
When pregnant and given the option, always choose sleep. The dog can wait to be walked, the gym workout can be done at a later time, the laundry can wait to be folded. Sleep is your friend in the early months of pregnancy. You’re tired all the time anyway…go with it. Your body is truly telling you to rest before you can’t anymore. When you’re at your biggest and sleeping on your stomach is no longer an option and that little baby decides she wants to put her feet in your ribcage at 1am, you will have wished you chose sleep. Not to mention all the late night visits to the bathroom.
You’re going to gain weight. There’s no way around this. This is actually a GOOD thing. It means that your little baby is getting healthier and stronger. You can continue to remain as active as you want-this will actually help offset the fatigue. The number on the scale doesn’t define who you are and your baby isn’t going to care how much you weigh. And the good news? You will lose a lot of this weight shortly after delivery.
You’re not a celebrity so don’t hold yourself to such standards. The “baby weight” will not fall off overnight And THAT’S OKAY. In real life, there are no nannies, personal chefs or trainers. It’s just you, that baby and your husband.
Labor. It will be intense. It will be fast. Physically, it will be the hardest thing you ever do. But it will be worth 110% worth it.
Speaking of the love for your husband. It will triple once you see him become a father to your baby girl. You will see a whole new side of him and it will make you fall in love all over again.
Remember that these next 9 months go by fast so cherish every single moment. Both the good and the bad. Remember at the end when all you wanted is for the baby to just come out? After the baby has arrived, you will be in the grocery store, see a pregnant lady and say to yourself, “I miss that.” Just you wait.