And here we are, finishing up 24 weeks. The second trimester is cruising right along very smoothly and I have zero gripes or complaints. So much so, this is the last pic I took…21 weeks-Whops! I’m savoring every minute of this because I know that in just a few weeks that can, and probably will, change.
My energy levels are still relatively high/normal. I’m really motivated to get the baby’s room organized and redecorated. I’ve been carrying bins of clothes down from our attic to see what baby girl #2 will need. It’s nice that we’ll get to reuse a lot of stuff, but because Madelyn was born in August and this baby will be born in the Fall, the first few month’s of clothes and sizes don’t match up with the seasons. So I’ll be doing some shopping and rummaging in the next few weeks to see what I can find. I was able to score 2 Aden & Anais blankets at a rummage for $6! A pack of 4 runs about $35 in the store. Since not really much is new in the last few weeks of this pregnancy, I want to talk about being “Team Green” until the very end versus finding out the baby’s sex halfway through.
I’ve been fortunate enough to experience it both ways. When I was pregnant with Madelyn, we (or rather I) elected not to find out. Hubs wanted to find out but I won that battle and we waited until she was born. Best. Decision. Ever. Now I know what that surprise feels like and there’s a lot of stuff that we can reuse because the every day stuff (sleep sacks,towels, blankets,etc…)are all gender neutral.
Common questions I received while being Team Green: How are you going to decorate the nursery? How do you not want to know?! You’re going to have so much green & yellow! Last one’s not really a question, but you get the point. I LOVED Madelyn’s room. I had a lot more time during my first pregnancy to get quite a few DIY projects done. This time around? Not so much. And OF COURSE I wanted to know! It was killing me but fun at the same time. I had one person tell me I was carrying this way so that meant I was having a boy and then I’d turn around and someone else would tell me I was carrying another way that meant girl. I got more joy out of watching everyone else try to guess what she was. Another reason I didn’t want to know because I felt as adults, it’s the one last “good surprise” left in life. It was one surprise I couldn’t ruin for myself and I liked that.
When we found out we were expecting baby #2 husband right away said that we were finding out. I was reluctant, but I knew it wasn’t fair to hold out again when I knew that he really wanted to find out. In marriage, there’s this thing called compromise…it got the best of me and I gave in. I said to him that I didn’t want to know at the 20 week anatomy scan with the ultrasound tech, that if we were finding out it had to be with our family in a fun and exciting way. Enter silly string party.
You guys, thinking of that day makes my eyes well up with tears. The emotions I felt in a matter of minutes was insane. I went from nervous to calm, to excited, to happy that everyone could be there to know that we were having another girl. It was amazing and fun and I wouldn’t take that back for anything. We got to hug our family right away and they got to share in the moment with us.
Some pro’s about finding out midway through
–Being able to prepare!! Going through all of Madelyn’s stuff and purging what we’re not going to use, has been wonderful. We’ve also slightly altered the room colors. The old room was painted a turquoise color and was staying that way regardless. If we found out baby was a boy we would add in more navy blues and greens. Now that we found out she’s a girl, we are adding in coral and gold. I can’t wait to see how it all comes together.
–Deciding on a name. We’ve never had an issue coming up with a girl name, but boy names are always an issue for us. Thankfully, we will never have to have that argument.
–Preparing Madelyn for a sister. I can’t wait to see these two together. We keep asking her for name ideas, even though baby 2’s name has been decided. The one thing we are keeping secret until the birth. Even from (especially from) Madelyn.
Cons of Waiting until the End
Even though I’m so happy that we were completely surprised the first time around, there were some cons that came along with it.
–Not knowing the whole 9 months. I was pretty confident that Madelyn was a girl from the very start. I had several dreams where she was a girl. I just had a gut instinct. And then all of my friends started finding out they were having girls and I thought there was no way we ALL were having girls. So I became undecided again. I drove myself nuts.
–Texting our family the news. My mom and sister were at the hospital when Madelyn was born so they knew right away at 3:29am she was a girl. We had to wait until a more reasonable hour to send people a text letting them know she had arrived. This time around my friends called and congratulated us and we were able to share the news with our family and see their reactions.
–The moment you find out. Maybe because I was just so tired and stunned at what I just did, when hubs told me she was a girl, I didn’t have the same reaction as I did when we found out via silly string. I was just happy that our baby was here and that she was healthy and that I was done giving birth. Nothing else mattered.
I thought that finding out the baby’s sex during pregnancy would make me less excited to meet her/give birth etc. But that’s not the case AT ALL. I think of her every day. How she will look. Will she get my curly hair? Will her eyes stay blue or will they turn green like Madelyn’s? Will she have more olive-toned skin? Things like that. I think of her personality. If she will be quieter/calmer than Madelyn? Will Madelyn be super bossy and will this little lady stand up to her sister? She’s quite active in there, but I remember Madelyn being non-stop in utero-a personality trait that carried on into toddler life. I’m just as scared for labor/delivery as I was the first time around. Maybe even more so because I know what I’m getting myself into. I keep thinking that the L&D will be the same as last time, but that I can clearly not be the case. In the next few weeks, I’m going to brush up on laboring techniques, as I’m hoping to another all natural birth.
Moms out there, where you totally surprised or did you find out the sex of the baby? Mom’s of two or more children, were your labor and deliveries the similar or completely different?